A Titus 2 Woman (Part 2)

Welcome back to part 2 of A Titus 2 Woman. Today I will be talking about what it means to “teach what is good” from Titus 2:3-5.

Teaching what is good- The last thing Titus 2 tells us is to be teaching what is good. You may ask what that looks like. Thankfully in verses 4-5 we see exactly what we should be teaching to those younger than us.

Love their husbands and children- Proverbs 31:10-31 is an excellent example of how to love our husbands and children well. To name a few of the examples in this passage, you should be a wife that is trustworthy, does no harm to her husband in word or deed, takes care of her family's needs, and is able to be praised by her children. This does not mean we will always do things perfectly, but we should not be bad mouthing our husband or kids to anyone. Not on social media and not to a friend or acquaintance. Show those younger than you what it means to love and respect your family.

Sensible- To be sensible can also be to be prudent. This means to be practical, realistic, or responsible. Ladies, most of us tend to be led more by our emotions than by logic, but to be a woman of God we must strive to be sensible. Some ways we can do this is in taking care of our families and homes. Are we being practical when it comes to spending money? Are we being sensible when it comes to a disagreement with our husbands? Are we being realistic in what we expect from our husbands and children? Proverbs 14:8 tells us that the sensible person understands his way, but the foolish man’s way is deceit. Seek to be sensible in all you do and teach younger women to do the same.

Pure- The word pure means free from anything of a different, inferior, or contaminating kind. Friends, this does not mean that you’ve never sinned in some way or another. What it does mean is that once forgiven for your sins you should strive daily to be free of the worldly pleasures and desires. The bible associated purity with holiness or cleanliness. The ONLY way we can accomplish this is by the blood of Jesus Christ. In Ephesians 1:7 we see that we have redemption through his blood and forgiveness of sins. Then in Hebrews 9:14 we are told that we are cleansed by his blood and given the power to serve the living God. We can be pure in the sight of God because of His beloved son Jesus. Share this good news with all who will listen and especially to young women in our lives.

Workers at home- This might step on some toes, but I fully believe the best place for a woman/mother is at home. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been on the other side. I have been a full time working mom and wife. My husband and I thought we needed two incomes and we were raised with working moms. While I don’t blame my mom for working, I do remember two separate times when she was home, early in my life and again when I was about 10, and I LOVED being home with her. These times are some of my fondest memories from my childhood.

Now I am home full time and it has been a tremendous blessing to myself and my family. I am busy with taking care of the home, homeschooling my son, planning a wedding with my daughter, and I’m able to meet with ladies for discipleship. I know it will look different in other seasons of life but I believe that the best place for a woman to be is at home for her family. What I am NOT saying is that you can’t work. I’ve worked part-time over the last few years inside and outside the home. In Proverbs 31:10-31 it is clear that this woman is working. She buys land and with it makes a vineyard. She also makes and sells goods. Working with your hands is good and right. Just remember that taking care of your family first and foremost is what is best. We should encourage younger women to think deeply about what this looks like in their lives.

Kind- I think we’ve lost the art of kindness with the help of social media. We become keyboard warriors when posting online and most of the time we forget the phrase “truth in kindness.” To be kind does not mean you have to be a pushover. You can and should have beliefs and opinions and strong ones at that, BUT we can and should choose to express those beliefs with love and compassion. Kindness starts with the heart but is seen when it comes out of the mouth. Ephesians 4:29 tells us that we should speak words good for building up and showing grace to others. A great prayer to pray for yourself and to share with younger women is Psalm 141:3. Let us speak and teach kindness to others.

Submissive- In the Bible the concept of submitting is willingly placing yourself under the authority of your husband. The husband, in turn, is to love his wife as Christ loves the church. I understand that there are situations out there where this seems impossible. Maybe you have an apathetic husband that does not lead well and does not love you properly. We are to submit because Christ calls us to submit and we are obeying him. I am NOT saying that we allow abuse. If you are being abused, please seek help from the elders in your church body and the authorities. However, in all other circumstances, I AM saying you are to willingly put yourself under the authority of your husband and we should be teaching this to younger women. Pray for your husband daily, whether he is loving you rightly or not. In 1 Peter 3:1-2 it tells us we can win our husbands without a word from our mouths. I believe this is through prayer and obedience to God.

I want you to realize something. You are an older woman to someone in your life. If you are not in a discipleship relationship with someone younger than you, then I need to ask you, “What are you waiting for?” I meet with two younger women every week and it is such a blessing. I encourage you to seek out a discipleship relationship today. We ARE to be making disciples and this is a command straight from scripture in Matthew 28:19-20. If God commands it then you know it is for your good and for His glory.

–Kassy